The Wisdom of Solomon

I realize that this will most likely come as a complete shock to most of you, but…the truth is, my girls aren’t perfect.  In fact sometimes they can be downright rotten to each other.  In the past, I used to (OK, sometimes I still do!) intervene and require them to apologize and be kind to each other.  When I do that, each girl does her best to point out how wonderful she is and how horrible her sister is.  In the interest of not being an audience, I’ve pretty much learned to just ignore their little spats and let them work it out on their own.  Sometimes though, when they get particularly nasty or physical, we still need to intercede. 

Unfortunately, my not-so-perfect children were getting on the ferocious side with each other the other night. With a huge sigh, Shaun called them in to stand before them.  He started to give them the lecture about how they were sisters and would always have each other so they needed to treat each other with respect.  He went on to remind them how horrible the world would be if they didn’t have each other and blah, blah, blah….  After what seemed like hours, KT finally distracted him with a silly question then ran off giggling at the answer to wherever her sister had faded off to during the tedious lecture. 

“Did you see that?” Shaun asked with a smug grin, “It was the Wisdom of Solomon.”

“Um…I’m having a little trouble seeing the Wisdom” I had to admit.  

“It was all in the strategy” my shrewd husband boasted. “All I had to do was lecture them for so long that they forgot they were fighting!”

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12 Responses to The Wisdom of Solomon

  1. Jay says:

    Well, he does have a point. If he stands there and bloviates long enough they’ll get so board that they don’t have the energy to fight anymore. Not bad.

  2. gawilli says:

    Ah! What a smart man you have there. I could always tell when my children turned me off, just like the radio…three minutes was usually enough to do it.

  3. Newt says:

    Hmmmm not bad. I’ll have to share that with some friends.

  4. Peggy says:

    Good one Shaun!

    My sisters and I used to fight SO much when we were that age. We don’t fight at all now that we’re grown up.

    They WILL grow out of it but sadly, it may coincide with one of them leaving home.

  5. Susan says:

    Oh Peggy, what a sad thought…at least today!

    Jay, you are so right on his thinking. It must be a guy thing.

    Gawilli, but don’t you quit talking when you’ve lost them? LOL

    Newt, we’re always ready to give advise…good or bad!

  6. Mom says:

    Auh, Shaun, he just got caught up in his lecture, its a man thing and he had a capture audience. He probably doesn’t remember much about what he told them. Anyways, its something the girls will live through. Sue you didn’t have the good fortune of having a sister; a brother is not quite the same thing. No matter how much the girls fight they will always be there for each other. They love each other and are from a loving family. That is all that is needed. I remember my mom saying “go ahead; kill each other off; see if I care” I use to think that was a horrible thing to say! but now after raising two children, ie you and your brother; I see why she use to say that. You have to let the girls find their own way; it strengthens them. But when the violence or verbal abuse gets to much; simply send them to their rooms for awhile will do it. love mom

  7. Betty says:

    Good tactic. It got so bad at my house, once, that I got the two of them in the living room, one at each end of the room, and said, “OK, start talking to each other. Say what you don’t like about the other one, and what hurts your feelings.” They finally started talking, and, turns out, there wasn’t a whole lot they didn’t like. But, there WAS a lot that hurt their feelings when they fought. I guess it worked. They were a bit better after that.

  8. mjd says:

    Wisdom in raising children may be whatever works.

  9. bardouble29 says:

    I love it…I used to get so tired of listening to mine agrue that I did much of the same thing. Mine used to promise they wouldn’t argue anymore, if I promised not to lecture anymore. And minutes later I could here them whispering about how they would “get along” so they would not be in trouble.

  10. Brin says:

    That’s hilarious… the “wisdom”, not the fighting! I grew up the oldest of five, and boy did we have have our moments! My Mother, at a point of desperation one day, finally resorted to a “all -for- one and one-for-all” mentality: if one or two of us was rude or fought, we all got it! Have to say, it turned the tables and united us all, and there was quite a bit of “internal affairs” dealing after that among us!

    Good luck!

    Oh! And thanks for your sweet comment on my blog yesterday. It meant a lot! I’m so glad you could stop by!

  11. Chelle P. says:

    A fine strategy, indeed!

  12. Susan says:

    Mom, we’ll just send them both to you!

    Betty..your two seem to get along pretty well now, so maybe that’s a plan.

    mjd…I just with they came with instuction manuals though. It would be so much easier!

    Bar…only I don’t think I could get Shaun to quit lecturiing…he kinda likes it!

    Brin..your mom was brilliant! I’m don’t know if it would work on just two though…

    Chelle..don’t encourage him!

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