My Wayward Child

They always say that the “twos” are terrible, but I have to disagree.  The two’s were a bit frustrating but they were still cute.  There is nothing cute about a thirteen year old having a hissy fit.  Sigh…

Mimi is a lot like I am.  We both have to be handled carefully if you want us to do your bidding.  Knowing this, I’ve always managed to ask Mimi in just the right way to do whatever it is I needed to do.  Lately though, she’s been balking.  The words “whatever”, “no!” and “you can’t make me” have been coming out of her mouth more and more often.  Needless to say, these words (and the attitude that comes with them) are simply not acceptable. 

Now, I’m pretty good at creative punishments.  They are usually highly effective as they almost always manage to hit home.  With this new rotten being a teen business, nothing seems to be working.  Mimi just takes whatever I dish out to her and acts as though it doesn’t matter one whit to her. 

I think I’ve finally hit upon something that will make her rethink her actions and behave more appropriately.  Chores.  Yep, when she smart-mouths or back-talks, I tell her to go pick up twenty-seven things in her room and then to go do as she was asked.  If she gives me any grief, I simply add a few more things for her to do.  This evening she was counting beads that had been flung across the room.  It didn’t take her too long to get to one hundred items.  

In the course of one evening, my wayward child has become so much more pleasant. It’s pretty amazing how well this has worked.  I only wish I had thought of doing it sooner!

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19 Responses to My Wayward Child

  1. Peggy says:

    Oh!! I so heartily agree! Thirteen really is the most trying age of all! It makes two year olds pale in comparison. I do know that the eventually grow out of it or I would have strangled my current 13 year old. All of a sudden I have become acutely embarrasing and thick. The only thing that salvages my existence is that I have money and can drive. Funny thing though, when a 13 year old doesn’t feel well, they become nice again. Sadly we can’t wish illness on them tempting though it may be.

  2. pastorrick says:

    Mark Twain said parents, that when their child turns 13 they should put them in a barrel, close the lid, and feed them through a hole in the side. When they turn 16, Twain suggested parents close the hole!

    Now I wonder why he did not come up with a bright idea like my favorite sister did.

    My idea is a little different …. OFF WITH HER HEAD!!

  3. Susan says:

    Peggy-KT was so good and agreeable at that age…we were lulled into expecting her little sister to be the same. I can’t believe how easily I embarrass that child…merely by existing! (like you said, except for the money and transportation part)

    Ricky-Dad agreed to take her if I sent her to them in a big box. Shipping is a bit spendy, although it might be worth it! You time will come!

  4. Jay says:

    I’m so glad I don’t have kids. There is no way I would ever have the patience to deal with them.

  5. Patsy says:

    Hey! Your dad said he would take her? Where does he think the the two of them will be living! He forgot that I already dealth with two thirteen year old brats! Embarress ment works! Threaten her with it! Make her sorry! Hee Hee want me to show you how. Love mom

  6. oddmix says:

    Way to go! And, as to your expectations, um… you do refer to her as the FEISTY redhead, right? Did you think she would MELLOW when she hit her teens? 😉

  7. pastorrick says:

    Yep remember when Dad had to go to class with me because I was misbehaving? You all did not have much trouble with me in that class after that embarrassing hour did ya? Hey I wonder if that would be considered child abuse now? I wonder if I can sue the two of you for suffering yu caused me… I got to go now and see a lawer.

    PS- update your blog!

  8. mrs darling says:

    I know all about it. I read a book called Try and Make Me. The author said that whenever child sasses take the next outing away even if its basketball practice or the actual game. I did this and somtiems it ws so hard to do becaue I actually wanted my daughter to go worse than she wanted to. But I had to take it away. It worked with my oldest daughter but Tink isnt quite old enough yet to have a lot of youth activities or things she wants to attend. Sounds like your plan is working beautifully.

  9. As a former middle schol teacher, I have to say that 12-13 is an awful time for most girls…..the best thing is, they go THROUGH the stage, they don’t stay in it!

  10. Betty says:

    When my daughter was a teenager she pretty much left me alone because she had a younger brother to beat up on. He annoyed her so much, she didn’t have time for me.

  11. Susan says:

    Jay-you have much better foresight than I ever had!

    Patsy-It’s no longer my problem. Expect your valentine package soon!

    OM-you are so right. I should change the name to dull redhead. And how many redheads do you have again???? Bwahahahaaaaa

    Ricky- I’ve always said you were the problem child and I was the good one.

    Mrs. D-It has no effect if I deprive her of things. She’s such a stubborn child.

    Redhead- I think she’s been in this stage since she was about five…it’s just been getting worse. Hopefully she’s get through it soon!

    Betty- That’s our Jay!

  12. Kell says:

    I’m just so amazed at women like you who are so creative and just handle things so beautifully. You make it seem (almost) effortless. At least it seems doable. I would be so out of my league. I’d probably respond, “Oh yeah, well I don’t care either.” I’m still working on that maturity thing.

  13. ashley says:

    HAHA. I was so like Mimi that’s it’s scary. I hate to tell you that I didn’t outgrow my charming 13 year old rebel personality until my early 20s. The good news is I didn’t turn out too bad in the end!

  14. Dorky Dad says:

    UGH! 13! My boy is 2. I can definitely wait until he is 13. Maybe I’ll just take a nap on his 12th birthday, but I’ll only set my alarm for five years later. That ought to do the trick.

  15. Kristina says:

    Oh … thanks for the heads up – I’ll try this on the sulky 14 year old in my house. Tee Hee!

  16. Tink says:

    Woman, you’re a genius. I have a 12 and 14 year old brother who are completely unpunishable… Or so they’d make it seem. I’ll have to tell my Mom about this little trick. 😉

  17. Susan says:

    Kell and Tink-It’s simply desperation. If you try enough things, something is bound to work!

    Ashley- Word on the street is that you STILL don’t do as you are told!

    Dorky Dad-that’s a pretty good idea, I think I’ll head off for a nap now!

    Hi Kristina! Good luck. I only wish sulky was the only issue we had 🙂

  18. ashley says:

    I have no idea what you are talking about 😉

  19. momuxsix says:

    Pastorrick, where did you find that quote by Mark Twain? I have been looking for a source.

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