The Gift

One of Shaun’s favorite quotes is Homer Simpson’s, “You know, Marge, in some ways, you and I are very different people …”  As much as I hate to admit it, I think this very profound statement finally cemented it in Shaun’s head that we just don’t think the same way about things.   It has never failed to baffle him how very different we really are. 

Last night we were just chatting about this and that when he broke down and lamented that he had a mere thirty-six hours to buy me a gift and he was clueless as to what to get me.  My response (as always) was that there really wasn’t anything I needed or was lusting after. 

“Oh no…” He said, “That’s not going to happen again.”  Apparently, for our first holiday as a married couple together, I had told him exactly that. We both agreed not to get each other anything.  He has never forgotten my look of abject dismay when I received nothing at all, not even a tiny little trinket from him.

The thing is, I’m just not a very materialistic person.  I’m not really into jewelry (well, ok I have a thing for cheap, gaudy earrings) The frugalness in me cringes at the thought of an expensive dinner out (Shaun is an excellent cook) or a bouquet of overpriced flowers.  (I’m still delighted that my violets are still alive and blooming) or other expensive things.  The thought of household gadgets as a gift horrifies me.  In all honestly, I’m extremely fortunate to have everything I need and want. 

Last night, was the first time that Shaun really seemed to realize how very different we were.  He noted that he is all about gadgets…anything from a new-fangled kitchen thingy to the fanciest cell phone.  I’m more about some kewl art supplies or going to do something special.  Last year we finally went to explore Mt. Rainier. (It’s still a very fond memory of mine) 

The thing that touches me the most is, that like Homer, Shaun has a heart of gold and really wants to do things that make me happy.  To me, that’s the best gift of all. 

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9 Responses to The Gift

  1. Patsy Ann says:

    Took hime long enough to realize that you really are two different people; in fact; I bet he still doesn’t get it! By the way your present is on the way; it left here yesterday. You should get it maybe tomorrow or Thursday, sorry if it is late. It’s cheap and gaudy, but not those earrings. Maybe a dress! Hee hee

  2. Jay says:

    Never believe a woman who says “Oh I don’t really want or need anything” or “Oh you don’t have to go to any trouble”. LOLOL

  3. graymama says:

    Happy Birthday, Susan! I might be quiet, but I am always reading and thinking of you and your sweet family 🙂

  4. photowannabe says:

    Your final paragraph really says it all. Your hubby wants to make you happy. That’s what its all about…

  5. Barb says:

    I guess we owe you a Happy Birthday! I agree with your lst paragraph…the most impotant thing is he really cares enough to make you happy. God bless you both! (and Happy Valentines Day!)

  6. Dorky Dad says:

    I KNOW WHAT YOUR DIFFERENCES ARE!!! You’re female. He’s a dude. Seriously, though, I have that same problem with my wife. “What do you want for (FILL IN THE HOLIDAY).” “Oh, nothing,” she says. Then I get her something nice and she doesn’t like it. DANG.

  7. Shaun says:

    To any men reading this: you may THINK you know what the pressure is like, but trust me, unless your wife’s birthday is on Valentine’s Day (or, possibly, Christmas), you don’t 🙂

  8. Susan says:

    LOL Sorry guys…we don’t MEAN to be so difficult, it’s just our nature!

  9. Newt says:

    Happy Birthday.

    I made it easy for the hubster this year. I got a piece of jewelry that I liked a week ago. So I handed it to him and said he could give it to me for Valentines Day.

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