What I Want For Christmas…

Shaun and I were still dewy eyed newlyweds existing on generic mac and cheese when our first Christmas rolled around.  We were still in school, waiting tables and pretty much broke.  The idea of spoiling anyone with an extravagant holiday was laughable.  We decided that we would bake homemade treats for friends and family and refrain from purchasing anything for each other.  To me, that meant I should only get My Beloved little tiny things and only splurge on something kinda big.  Shaun, on the other hand,  is such a rule follower that he won’t even cheat at Monopoly.  I guess I hadn’t really realized that yet.

On Christmas morning, I eagerly dragged Shaun to our tiny front room and the presents I had snuck underneath our tree.  The immediate panic on his face told me that he had done exactly as we agreed on and not gotten me a single thing.  I tried my best to hide my disappointment, but with all the tears steaming down my face being the sensitive kinda guy he is, Shaun saw right through me. 

Ever since that first Christmas, Shaun goes into a panic whenever a traditional gift-giving holiday approaches.  He tends to get a little angry at the pressure he (and society) puts on him and demands to know what I want.  I, on the other hand, have always tended to feel that if he really loved me he would just know what I wanted in my heart of hearts.  (After all, I can almost always find the perfect gift for him!) Through the years I have tried leaving broad hints and have resorted to leaving lists in very visible places.  This isn’t really a good option though, because Shaun feels that just getting things on a shopping list defeats the whole purpose.

This year seems to be tougher than ever.  I am happy to be able to say that I want for nothing.  I have a sturdy home, a beautiful family, too many pets.  I’m just not very materialistic.   I have friends that swoon for jewels or shoes or whatever…those kind of things just don’t really do anything for me.

So, when Shaun asked me what I would like again this morning, I had a suggestion ready for him.  I proposed that we not exchange gifts with each other this year.  Shaun’s eyes nearly popped out.  “Oh no! I fell for that once before” he shouted. “I’m not going to fall for  that one again!”

Oh well…it was worth a shot.  Now all I have to do is figure out what I’m dying to have…

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0 Responses to What I Want For Christmas…

  1. Cheryl says:

    I’m with you on not wanting for anything. Or, I should say, needing. It’s very hard for me to come up with ideas for my daughter. When I was married, my ex was a much better gift giver than me, and that was hard. So, good luck. I hope Shaun finds that perfect thing that will surprise you.

  2. Jay says:

    LOL … He’s smarter than you give him credit for. Not getting suckered in twice! 😉

  3. Lisa's Chaos says:

    Too funny! I’m not into jewels and such either. It’s great to not need something. I know, tell him you need massage oil and him to give you a nice massage. 🙂

  4. Hilary says:

    An ultra nice dinner out together is always nice. 🙂

  5. Your story reminds me of O.Henry’s “The Gift of the Magi”.

  6. tommiea says:

    that is so funny….He has totally learned his lesson!

  7. Susan says:

    Cheryl~me too…it drives him nuts. Then he’s really sad if I don’t love it enough. sigh…

    Jay~You caght that, huh? tee hee

    Lisa~hmmmm, that’s a thought.

    Hilary~yeah, with NO kids!

    Songbird~except neither of us is really giving up something that we love. I do love that story.

    Tommie~Yeah…he’s pretty quick that way.

    Anyone else have any ideas of what I need for Christmas?????

  8. Pamela says:

    I never learned to swoon for those things either.
    Maybe that makes us difficult to buy for.

    How about a gift certificate for a pedicure,….

  9. Lynne says:

    uhmm… Susan … how about a another new baby? That’s what I wanted and I’ve been playing with it all week long! 🙂

  10. Peggy says:

    A “spa day” at some local luxury spa?

    Just because you THINK you’re not into jewels, doesn’t mean that some lavish gem would go unappreciated, right?

    Feliz Navidad Amiga!

  11. j says:

    sad. I know his story. That hurts him. I have been hurt in the same way. You are being passive and should make it easy on him and give him a list. Saying you don’t want anything and while you do really want something is odd and you shoud study that in yourself. Make him a list and maybe after many good years he will get your heart of hearts gift, but “lying” that you don’t want anything when you do and then setting him up for failure by getting gifts is not fair.

  12. Susan says:

    Pamela~hmmm…I could do a pedi. I hate having the manis though as I’m so hard on my hand it would be ruined in an hour or two!

    Lynne~For a moment, I thought you were talking about a real live kicking and screaming baby. (Only because Mimi thinks we need one) I thought you were nuts! You have *two* now??? How did I miss that? I’m headed over!

    Peggy~Um…I have a few pieces and I rarely wear them. I know, I’m not much of a girly girl…I bring shame to my gender!

    J~(and anyone else who thinks I’m a bit of a monster) I’m sorry you’ve been hurt. I guess you have to have been reading my blog or know us to understand this. We mess with each other…pretty much constantly. After nearly twenty years, it still works. We “get” each other. The whole gift giving angst has turned into a bit of a joke. He knows I want something (well, LOTS of somethings actually) I just don’t know what yet! Shaun is currently out of town, but he called laughing after reading this post. It really is ok.

  13. These poor men–they can never win, can they? 🙂

  14. Lynne says:

    Susan, NO, NO, NO! No real “babies”. We’re talking camera babies here. I haven’t blogged about it, so you didn’t miss anything …

  15. Frances says:

    My husband would have said the same thing!
    Have a wonderous day 🙂

  16. mrsgatt says:

    After 18 years of marriage, my husband and I have Christmas gift giving down to a fine science. I buy myself something luxurious, he buys himself something luxurious…then we kiss each other and say thank you. Not the most romantic, but it takes the pressure off and eliminates any hurt feelings.

  17. Tink says:

    Hoop and my first Christmas together, he got me a bunch of small things he found on sale in the Christmas isle at Walmart. He’s since learned. 😉

  18. Karina says:

    I always find it hard to tell people what I “want” for Christmas because I’m pretty self-sufficient, and if I want it, I buy it for myself. If I haven’t bought it yet, it’s because it’s outside my budget, which in turn, means its outside the budgets of anyone who is asking me what I want. You know?

    So, basically, I’m no help here, I always say something like “I don’t know, surprise me”, which elicits groans of annoyance. 😉

  19. mrs darling says:

    Thats how I am. I have pretty much all i want except a laptop! And do you know that Santa already told me I couldnt have a laptop this year? I no longer believe in Santa! Humph!

  20. Kell says:

    Everyone wanted gift cards this year, so that’s what they are getting. But I don’t like it. I like to try to find a great gift, but they want to pick it out for themselves. Oh well.

    Al asked me what I wanted but I told him that I got the dog, and that’s all I wanted. He said, “yeah, right. Like I’m not going to get you something to open.”

  21. Dorky Dad says:

    Your husband is like my wife. She gets me gifts that we actually say we’re going to get for one another, not the gifts I actually want.

  22. Linda says:

    We struggle with that same thing every year. I truly would rather get nothing than something someone grabbed off the shelf in a panic! It truly IS the thought that counts. I loved your lead in paragraph!

  23. wolfbaby says:

    after our first couple of christmases i have learned to make my hubs a list of inexpensive gifts and expensive gifts i think i’ll never get… one year he stunned me with a pearl knecklace that i thought wsa on the expensive list but he found a sale (with sisters help) not much of a jewlery person but that one i loved. and a locket another year for pics of the girls. usually though i put a gift card to the book store he hates doing that but i keep trying to tell him it’s the greates gift ever cause i don’t feel guilty about spending gift cards at the book store LOL

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