In Sickness And In Health

As I recall, part of our marriage vows referred to loving each other in sickness and in health.  I’m pretty sure that those vows were referring to our state of health, but that’s not really how we use that vow.

Long ago, Shaun nabbed the role of over-reacting alarmist .  I was left with the less envious role of being the level-headed, calm minimalist.   I can still vividly recall KT eating her first piece of meat…and choking on it.  Shaun started screaming for me to “Call 911” over and over again as he grabbed her by the ankles and held her upside down.  The meat was quickly dislodged by his quick thinking, so I saw no need to call for emergency help.  He was dumbfounded by my refusal to make the call, even though our little girl was fine, if a little shaken up. 

A few years later, Mimi fell down against a table and cut her lip.  My beloved went ashen at the sight of all the blood gushing from our baby  girl’s face.  He was ready to haul her to the emergency room while I calmly applied pressure to the small wound.

And so it has gone our entire lives together.  Shaun over-reacts  and wants to rush to the ER.  I, in order to compensate, under-react. and take on a wait-and-see attitude.   In doing so…we manage to drive each other nuts.  Apparently, we have decided that we are now going to go beyond fussing over our kids.  They are getting ready to fly the nest in a few years anyways.  Our animals have promised to live with us for the rest of their lives.

On Sunday morning, Shaun noticed that our little dog, Penny wasn’t acting quite right.  If you touched her, she yelped.  (Only you could touch the same exact place a moment later and it was fine)  Another major symptom was that our normally perky dog was very lethargic.  Shaun was convinced that our sweet puppy was on her deathbed.  I thought she was just suffering from the same nasty cold that Shaun was.  I would have  given in and agreed to take Penny to the vet, only they are all closed on Sundays.  Well, except for dire emergencies.  So, we glowered at each other for most of the day.  (Well except for the parts of it that my sick, grumpy husband was fast asleep) 

Around two in the morning, Shaun decided that Penny was having convulsions.  Naturally, he dismissed my suggestion that she was just having a dream.  Convinced that Penny was indeed, in need of emergency care (and angry beyond belief at me for disagreeing)  Shaun decided to take Penny to an emergency pet hospital about a half hour away.   It was then that we discovered that it had been snowing for a while.

Our big dog, Shelly, and I, sat in the dark and fretted about the snow-filled roads (right at the time all the bars were closing) and our poor sick(ish) puppy.  I was afraid to call to see how things were going for fear of distracting Shaun while he was driving. 

Two and a half very long hours later we heard the jeep pull into the driveway.  (Actually we could hear it plowing through the snow about a block away).  Penny was jumping all over the place from her little night time adventure.  Shaun was full of tales of all the crazy drivers and the small accidents along the freeway (including the car that had flipped over on it’s side). 

The vet couldn’t really find anything wrong with our little dog and instructed us to  simply observe her for a couple of days.   Guess who was back to her normal self today?

If we ever end up renewing our wedding vows, I’m seriously thinking of rewording that pesky “in sickness or in health” part to give myself full control over the worrying of illness.  There are just some things that I am better at…

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0 Responses to In Sickness And In Health

  1. Carol says:

    Glad she’s all healthy! It sounds like only Shaun is the worse for wear. I can imagine the panic you must have felt watching the snow fall in the middle of the night, waiting to hear the jeep drive up!

    Oh, but wasn’t it pretty today?


  2. Hilary says:

    Our instincts usually kick in just fine with these sorts of things. You’d probably have known in your gut if something was seriously wrong and would have been driving there yourself. Well told. 🙂

  3. Cazzie says:

    Oh mannnn, I reckon you and I are just the same! Having a wife and mum as a nurse must be awful for my hubby and kids, I just say, “Well, if you aren;t half dead it is not important!” LOL

  4. tommiea says:

    That is so funny! I am the over-reactor in our family. (Which is one of the main reasons I had a goal of NOT going to the ER during Husband’s deployment).

    Glad the puppy is fine!

  5. Jay says:

    I’m always ready to call 911 for other people and to take animals to the vet if they puke just once. But, if it’s me who is sick I just ignore it. I’ll probably just keel over one day from something that started out really minor. 😉

  6. Karina says:

    Too funny! At least you know that if there’s ever anything really wrong with you he won’t “wait and see”, so you’ll be just fine! 😉

  7. Mrs. G. says:

    “Naturally, he dismissed my suggestion that she was just having a dream”

    How is it that you never went to medical school? I know there is a doctor in you somewhere.

    Your husband and I would be horrible together. Two hysterical Nellies concerned that every headache was a brain tumor.

  8. sweetisu says:

    Hilariously written, but I’m sure it’s not easy to compromise. (we have some issues too… and I can’t even begin to write about them)

  9. Linda says:

    That’s too funny! In sickness and in health… for better or for worse… why are they such extremes? Everything would be much better in mediocrity don’t you think?

  10. Linda says:

    Oh, and thanks for commenting on my Fun Monday nightstand story… you were hoping for something more spicy?… some cayenne pepper in my drawers perhaps?

  11. Susan says:

    Carol~it was scarey. I like snow…to look at! I’m glad it’s gone now. 🙂

    HIlary~It’s true, I can tell when something is *really* wrong. Now all I have to do is convince Shaun of that

    Cazzie~Maybe that’s why I’m this way. Mom is a nurse and Dad just wanted us to suck it up.

    Tommiea~What a funny goal to have!

    Jay~yep, that sounds just like Shaun…

    Karina~Good point.

    Mrs. G~ I don’t need med school…I’m Dr. Mom…perhaps you’ve heard of me?

    sweetisu~I figure if you can’t laugh about it…but that’s just me. I’m irreverant.

    Linda~ I agree

    Linda again~ Just checkin”. Tabasco would work fine. 😀

  12. Amydeanne says:

    too funny.. it’s amazing how opposites attract isn’t it? lol my hubby and i are like that, except I’m probably the crazy one lol

  13. Wendy says:

    I’m really glad your little dog was fine. I’m like you, I have a “wait and see” attitude. It doesn’t always pay off, though. My son broke his arm when he was 8, but he wasn’t crying, and he was always saying he’d broken something. One time he said he broke his spleen. So when he calmly said his arm was broken, I told him to get a popsicle and sit down for awhile. I continued cleaning the bathroom and didn’t look at it for about 20 minutes. When I finally saw it, I was horrified.

  14. Jocelyn says:

    Could you also work in a part where he has to promise to obey you?

    That would be sweet.

  15. Lisa's Chaos says:

    Glad doggy is ok and that hubby didn’t wreck and it’s sweet that he cares so much about the pup. 🙂

  16. You’re definitely holding up your end of the vows if there was no “I told you so,” in there! Glad it worked out.

  17. Frances says:

    We had the same incident years ago – our daughter was choking hubby panicked – I turned her upside down and got the chicken out.
    Strangely enough the one time I thought something was really wrong he didn’t.
    While he was out I took her to the emergency room and it was pnuemonia.
    I still remember his ashen face as he ran through the hospital doors.
    Take care,

  18. Jenster says:

    You make me giggle. Sounds much like our house. I’m pragmatic and practical. Todd – not so much.

  19. photowannabe says:

    And such are the ways of love and mutual driving each other crazy-ness. This was so funny. Thanks for sharing and I am glad your pup is better.

  20. Pamela says:

    My hubby was a Paramedic. When Karmyn was 6, she cut her finger badly (stitches)
    He was incapable of doing anything. I grabbed a towel, wrapped her hand, and organized the trip to the doctor.
    I was so proud of myself — and so surprised how a man who saw horrid things at all times of the day, would fall apart when our children were hurt.

  21. Dorky Dad says:

    I thought my cat was dying once. He was barfing everywhere. But the vet couldn’t find anything. Then we changed his food. Now he’s not dead.

  22. Your hubby is a very sensitive guy so you’re lucky. NLM is the same, over cautious, I’m a let’s give a little bit kind of person. Probably good thing that like-minded people don’t get paired up. There’d be alot of frantic couples running around in the snow in the middle of the night with well pets.

  23. Pavel says:

    lol… I’m kind of like your hubby, I guess. It’s good you both balance each other out some…

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