And You Can't Make Me!

For this past week, Shaun has been feeling sicker than our dog ever thought about.  In his usual generous way, he has decided to share his icky germs with his family.  Lucky us. 

The girls and I have been getting more and more congested and generally feeling out of sorts.  KT and I have been just sucking it up.  (Give me a few more days of it though, and I’ll start whining).  On the other hand, Mimi, our little Drama Queen, has decided that she is deathly ill.

Yesterday, she dragged herself out of bed and plopped herself down in an armchair doing her best to look pathetic.  It took me at least two seconds to figure out what she was up to.  Then it took me another two seconds to decide that, despite feeling punky, my little girl was well enough and really needed to go to school. 

Now, Mimi doesn’t really understand the art of being subtle. She probably could have convinced me that she was truly ill if she had worked it a little better.  Yet she didn’t.  When she realized that just looking pathetic wasn’t going to work, she turned on the tears.  She sobbed and whined about how horrible she felt.  I have to admit that I had started to weaken, yet still held my ground.  I knew that she didn’t feel well.  Yet, I also knew that she was milking it for all she was worth. 

When Mimi saw that I still wasn’t budging, she got mad.  Being angry and upset is ok.  It’s part of life.  But acting out on it isn’t ok.  When the child that could barely lift her arm nor speak above a whisper decided to storm off towards her room screeching at the top of her lungs “I’m not going to school and you can’t make me!”, she sealed her fate.

When she came home from school, she as the happy, bubbly girl that she usually is.  We discussed how much better she felt when she was actually at school and why she couldn’t afford to miss any if she really didn’t need to.  I felt like we had come to an understanding with each other. 

so, this morning, much to my amusement, was almost an exact repeat of yesterday.  Mimi started out pathetic, went to crying and then to fury.  I think she learned a little tiny bit from her mistakes as she wasn’t quite as disrespectful as yesterday.   It might even be possible that she’ll get her phone back sometime this month…

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0 Responses to And You Can't Make Me!

  1. Molly says:

    Susan, as usual, you are the WOman. I was not always as that during my active parenting days.

  2. Molly says:

    Make that
    “Susan, as usual, you are the WOman. I was not always that courageous during my active parenting days.”

  3. I love kids, truly I do, or I wouldn’t be a teacher. HOWEVER, I am so thankful I don’t live with kids!! I so admire those of you who do!

  4. Jay says:

    Why stay home when you’re sick? It’s much more fun to go into work or school and make everybody else just as miserable. 😉

  5. Cheryl says:

    My girl never gets away with staying home. I tell her she has to be throwing up or have a fever. We moms can tell the real thing. I hope your sick doesn’t get pathetic like the men. Sorry men, but it’s true.

  6. This reminds me of when my Social Butterfly was about 6 and wanted to stay home because she twisted her ankle. Her brothers still do the imitation of her jumping up and down, screaming “I can’t go! My foot hurts too much!”

  7. Amanda says:

    Love this story, and am glad to know that I am not the only mom who is mean enough to make kids go to school. Especially when they say, “You can’t make me!”

  8. tommiea says:

    We have been sick here as well! One kid even stayed home two days last week.

    How many days in the phone in time out?

  9. pastorrick says:

    You are sooo mean. You should be more like your loving an kind mother.

  10. Patsy says:

    This is your mother speaking! I am so proud of you! I remember a few times like that relating to you! Tho I also remember the time that you twisted your ankle at school and was crying, with the teacher saying that you were alright, nothing wrong with you. I took one look at your ankle and off to the clinic we went, coming home with your foot in a cast. We were so cool and didn’t say a thing to that teacher!

    Ok now it is time to nail the upstairs windows shut – the ones where they can climb out and skinny down the tree.
    Give meg a kiss for me and tell her good try for me.

  11. So I guess there probably won’t be a career in theater for Mimi 😉

  12. good for you!! my mom used to tell me that if i was too ill to go to school it meant the whole day in bed…no books, no music, no TV…just rest & fluids to heal. i never faked it because that level of boredom would have surely killed me. now, i homeschool my own children, but i still have the same policy…if you can’t do the work, you must go to bed. only now we have so much more to enforce…no internet, no cell phone, no playstation!

    hope y’all are feeling better very, very soon…you be sure to milk it a little & pamper you!

  13. pastorrick says:

    OK, tell your mother to bu out of your business an tell your sweet daughter to give me a call for some advice on how to really trick you.

  14. stormysleep says:

    every day is a new day with kids — i think it takes 30 years for the lessons to sink in. mine are 26, 22, 20, and 17, and the 26 year old is starting to get it. a little bit. on some days.

  15. photowannabe says:

    Ah, the joys of motherhood and teenagers…there certainly is never a dull moment.

  16. mimi says:

    Okay I would like to let all whom read this NONE OF THAT IS TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Trust me I was there because I am the one the story is about!!!!! DONT BELIEVE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! grandma or “patsy” dont you think that she should have let me stay home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????????????????????

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