A Heated Relationship

It’s taken me nearly twenty years, but I’ve just realized that I don’t exactly have the ideal marriage.   I grew up thinking that marriage was supposed to be like the Cleavers.  Ward and June were always perfectly groomed, always supported each other, had intellectual conversations, rarely argued (and if they did, voices were certainly never raised), and had nearly perfect children.  (Hmmm…kinda boring now that I think about it.)

I’d like to think that Shaun was being caring and thoughtful (as Ward would be) when he first forwarded the weather report that we were in for a heat wave this weekend to me yesterday.  He was obviously letting me know what we were in for in advance so that I would be forewarned.  Being a practical(ish) man, Shaun knows that one should do all they can do to prepare for bad weather….like…um…make ice cubes or something.

I started having doubts as to his good intentions when he mournfully carried on of how blisteringly hot it was going to be as he helped me haul a bulky fan upstairs.  Suspiciously, I studied his face closely to judge his sincerity.  Shaun  seemed to be genuinely worried about my comfort so I chose to think the best of him. 

When Shaun got to work this morning, he called to somberly report that he had heard on the radio that it was supposed to get up to 95 degrees today.  I sighed then dryly asked him if he was enjoying himself.  He couldn’t stand it a moment longer and burst out in a loud obnoxious laugh.  “Yes” he said, “yes, I am!”.

That my friends, seems to be the cornerstone of our marriage.  We mess with each other.  Constantly. 

If you had to pigeon hole us, we would never make it into the hole of Ward and June (nor would be want to)  In my opinion, we seem to fit more closely into the mode of Lucy and Ricky…we’ve got just enough spice to keep things interesting.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to go grab a few of those ice cubes I made last night…

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17 Responses to A Heated Relationship

  1. You are too funny. I love to see the different ways that marriages work. Michael and I never mess with each other. He didn’t grow up in a family with teasing, so he just doesn’t get into it. Sometimes I joke that we sound like an Austen novel because we’re so polite with each other. (We draw the line at calling each other Mr. and Mrs. Chatlien though.)

    I’m happy with what I have, but I also think your relationship sounds fun.

    And thanks so much for the positive spin you put on my week. You’re the only one who mentioned the guys thinking I was a hottie. LOL

  2. fiwa says:

    Laughter is what keeps ya going in the hard times. Holy cow it’s hot! I’m thinking about going to the mall just to get some air conditioning. I do not willingly go to the mall. The thought of going to the mall makes me break out in hives. Hives/heat rash… which is worse?

    Stay cool –

  3. Life without laughter just wouldn’t be worth it.

  4. Maura says:

    I have to agree with Jenn. A man who will bring you flowers whenever, can give you grief and make you laugh at the same time, and will carry the bulky fan upstairs is a treasure.

  5. Jay says:

    Hmm .. it was 95 and sunny there today and it was 74 and cloudy and rainy here.

    In August.

    We swapped weather today.

  6. I can relate… for my husband a joke never gets old!!

    Nice glimpse of marriage and life!

  7. tommie says:

    Lucy and Ricky seemed like so much more fun to hang out with.

    Favorite cool weather trick: use the mister bottle I use for ironing….spray on me, sit in front of the fan in a damp jammie! Oh yeah, how’s that for some visualness!

  8. Tofu Mom says:

    Oh man! Hot indeed.
    We drove around wasting a good half-a-tank of gas just to enjoy the air conditioning!

    MY Shaun (being from Albuquerque as he is) can only laugh at my red face and tell me I’m a hot-weather weenie. Pfffffft.

  9. Being able to mess with each other is pretty key in our relationship, too. Neither of our parents were like that, so it is a bit odd that we have this kind of marriage. Maybe when the kids have worn us down we will have no personality left? Until then, the good-natured teasing will continue.

  10. Lisa's Chaos says:

    I think Lucy and Ricky had more fun anyway. 🙂 We are definitely no Cleavers. 🙂

  11. Hilary says:

    Heatwave or not.. you’re probably still each others biggest “fan.” 😉

  12. Rhonda says:

    WHAT! You mean that is not normal! I thought having a beaver cleaver marriage was the only way! Damn, no wonder mine never last! Hard to imagine that! I am sure somehow u can incorporate the fan and the mister in retaliation in order to cool things down.

  13. Patsy says:

    What do you mean you thought marriage was suppose to be like the Cleavers. I thought I told you that it was like the Flintstones! Heat/dam hot – reminds me of the time back in the old days when I painted the bathroom in the nude! (everyone was gone all day) Your dad had trouble getting his mind around that little bit of information.

  14. Marla says:

    The Cleavers were boring so Lucy and Ricky is a definite step up 🙂

  15. Susan says:

    Ruth~I think if we weren’t constantly teasing each other we would seriously be concerned that something was wrong. It’s interesting to find out how other relationships work.

    fiwa~I don’t know that I could’ve found the energy to make it to the mall…I was just a puddle….ewwww

    Jenn~I agree!

    Maura~We just won’t tell Shaun that…we wouldn’t want to make his head swell, now would we?

    Jay~give it back!!!

    Laura~It certainly makes life interesting…

    Tommie~You iron??? Huh…what a concerpt. lol

    Tofu~I didn’t realize you had a NM Shaun too!

  16. Susan says:

    Not afraid~You know…now that I think about it, I don’t remember my folks messing with each other much either. And I know Shaun’s didn’t. I wonder how that came about. I’ll have to think on that.

    Lisa~I have to agreee

    Hilary~ I LOVE it!

    Rhonda~you’re too funny!

    MOTHER!!!! Just when I finally had that image blocked out. There are SOME things you aren’t supposed to talk about in public…sigh….. lol

    Marla~tee hee….I like to think so!

  17. Jocelyn says:

    It’s the messin’ with each other that makes the marriage last and work. I can’t tolerate serious couples!

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