The Valentine Baby

When I was a little girl, I simply knew that I was just a little more special than other people.  This was because I was born on Valentine’s Day.  Everyone would gush about how special that was and what a sweet, special girl that I was as a result of this.  The entire world celebrated my day with hearts, flowers, chocolate all in various shades of pink.  Truly a little girl’s dream come true.  I was the Valentine Baby.

When I was in grade school, one of my best friends decided to throw a Valentine’s Day Party.  I just knew deep in my heart that it was a front for a surprise birthday party for me.  It nearly broke my heart when the sad realization that it was simply a Valentine Party dawned on me.  My friend didn’t even remember that it was my birthday. 


This was the first in a long line of what I viewed as birthday betrayals. As I grew older, Valentine’s Day was no longer about pretty pink hearts, but more about romance and love.  If I didn’t have a  boyfriend in mid-February, (which, for some reason, I usually didn’t) I was screwed.   My friends would do something with me the day before, or the day after, but mostly they just wanted to talk about their special someone.  


For a long time I was really resentful (and dare I say a bit bitter?) that I was missing out on what society tells us should be two very special days. I grew to hate the day…at least until I found my very own special guy. 

Poor Shaun suddenly had so much pressure put on him.  I expected him to fulfill all my romantic yearnings.  Lucky for us both, he has a romantic soul and does a wonderful job at making my heart go pitter patter. 


When our girls came along, it finally occurred to me how selfish I had become.  I realized that all the card companies want us to believe that Valentine’s Day is all about expressing your romantic love.  Yet, with that attitude, there are so many people left feeling like total losers in life.

There are so many types of love…and romance is only a miniscule part of that.    I’ve come to realize that the love we need to  be showing should be for everyone.  From our partners, to our parents, our children, our friends and even that really nice lady that always waves to us and makes us smile even though we have no idea who she is.


I don’t know if this realization is a wisdom that comes with age or if it’s knowing that I am loved and cared for by so many.  Either way, letting go of the resentment that I carried for so many years while I was younger let me once again that I am indeed special. 

Images are all from what I sent in the girls’ lunches today 🙂

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19 Responses to The Valentine Baby

  1. Hilary says:

    Happy almost Birthday.. and Valentine’s Day. Lovely post. 🙂

    And what a Mom.. heart-shaped cucumbers and shrooms? It all looks so yummy. Hope yours is a great one. 🙂

    To be honest, I was mostly just playing with my cute new cutters! It was fun!

  2. Linda says:

    You are the coolest mom … what a wonderful lunch! Happy Tomorrow Birthday … hope it’s a great day for you.

    I can’t help but wonder if that lunch is going to embarrass Mimi…she’s so funny about things lately and may not think it’s wonderful!

  3. Kathy Ariano says:

    Great St. Valentine Post and Happy Birthday as well!

    Thank you!

  4. Kathy Ariano says:

    Susan, I thought I’d let you know that I think I remember getting that tip about the ginger from Rachel Ray. When I heard it, I remember thinking of all of the ginger roots that I’ve used and then put into the refrigerator to rot. Grating it frozen also alleviates the problem of it being ‘stringy.’

    I’ll just tell Shaun the tip came from my friend Kathy, he can’t stand Rachel Ray for some reason!

  5. Pam says:

    Happy birthday!

  6. amanda d says:

    I’m impressed with those lunch ideas! I’m glad that my kids didn’t have school today so there was no pressure to make Valentine-y lunches.

    Happy birthday tomorrow! Enjoy your day with all your favorite things, okay?

    Making those lunches is fun for me! I always get them a new shirt to match the holiday as well. This year they didn’t care much for them though. Teens…sigh… lol

  7. I used to always resent Valentine’s Day so much. i don’t think I ever had a viable relationship on Valentine’s day until I started dating Michael. It’s a hard day for lots of people.

    Have a happy birthday tomorrow.

    It is a really hard day for so many people. So much pressure, even if you do happen do be in a relationship. Ugh.

  8. My problem with Valentine’s Day is that it just seems like you’re being ordered to be happy–I don’t really like being ordered to do anything.

    Happy Birthday to you!

    I can so relate to not wanting to be told what to do!

  9. Pamela says:

    Happy Birthday ~~~~~
    the heart veggies is too cute.

    Thanks! They were fun to make

  10. Cazzie says:

    happy Birthday … you are blessed to be born on this day, as I was born two weeks before Christmas (to the day) and I sort of know how it feels to have a birthday overshadowed by other events. But, it is ok, I love it 🙂

    The girls were born shortly before Christmas and close to each other…on the 10th and 12th. That’s probably why I go all out for the other holidays for them.

  11. Peggy says:

    It’s your birthday!! Happy Birthday Susan!!

    (Is it Valentine’s Day too? I almost forgot!)


  12. Cheryl says:

    You are just a little more special! Happy Birthday, Happy Valentine’s Day!

    Awww…Thank you!

  13. Ann says:

    I love those little heart veggies!! I might steal that idea for a wedding shower I’m throwing! AND girl have a wonderful bday!! I’ve never been a fan of a birthday shared with a holiday…my boy almost came via c-section on the day before Christmas, but he said nope I’m gonna mix it up and arrive on the 17th!

    Oh, that would be so cute for a shower! I got the little cutters I Michaels. Good for your little guy!

  14. Chris says:

    Happy Birthday, not as bad as having your birthday Christmas day.

    I have to agree! Is that when yours is?

    btw, nice to “meet” you, Chris!

  15. Tink says:

    Happy Birthday!! It’s so tough having a birthday on a holiday. I had a friend whose birthday was on Christmas. None of his family ever got him a birthday present. It was always a “combo” gift. 🙁

    Poor guy!

  16. Nora says:

    Lovely. Not the same, but my birthday falls near the end of school, and for many years was overshadowed by various graduations.

    Not the same, but just as bad!

  17. Lisa's Chaos says:

    Hey, Happy Birthday – a day late. I understand how you felt. I love those heart mushrooms and cucumbers!

  18. tommie says:

    First happy belated birthday!

    Secondly, that is an adorable lunch. I use heart cookie cutters for the kids’ lunches all month long.

  19. Lola says:

    From now on all my salads will be crafted with heart cookie cutters, thank you! What a cool idea. Happy belated birthday from Italy!

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