Reality Check

When our girls were tiny, Shaun and I both worked full time jobs and had to find someone else to watch our girls.  For the first couple of years, my dad (to my complete shock) had offered to take care of KT for us. They had a wonderful time together, but when Mimi came along, Dad decided that it was a bit too of a handful and that we should find someone else to care for our girls.  Fortunately we happened to find a wonderful home-based daycare close to our home. Our girls were well cared for, but we still hated having to leave them with someone outside of our family.

As soon as we became financially stable we made the decision to raise our children ourselves.  One of us would quit our job and become a stay-at-home-parent. I was the logical choice because at the time, Shaun made a little more money and well…we are a bit traditional in a few ways.

For nearly their entire existence I have been a constant in our girls’ lives.  I have been active in their classrooms (doing my best to avoid all the school politics!) led Girl Scout troops, helped with homework, went to every game…well…anything involving the girls, I have always been there for them.  

As I was needed less and less in the classroom, I started searching for other things to do during the school day.  Somehow I ended up with a part time job that still allowed me to be home when the girls walked in the door.  This is something that we still consider important despite the fact that our girls can easily take care of themselves. 

A couple weeks ago, my boss asked me if I would consider teaching a short session for two weeks of the summer.  I told her I would consider it as I wasn’t really sure of our summer plans yet.  Then last week, I was asked it I would be willing to design and implement an additional  six week program.  It was tempting, but as I explained to my boss, I only have a couple summers left of my girls living at home.  I told her that I would really have to think about this one.

Later that evening, when I talked to Shaun about this opportunity, he started to look at me funny.  Finally, he couldn’t hold it in anymore and burst out “You want our girls to be latch-key kids????”

“Good point” I said, “Although I’m pretty sure that they might be a little too old to count as a latch-key kid.”

I think I kept a straight face….

UPDATE:Reading the comments, I’ve come to realized that  my writing skills have fallen off as I didn’t seem to make my point!  (That’s what happens when one takes an extended blog break!) I’m not at all worried about the girls.  They are more than  capable of caring for themselves at this point in their lives.  Mostly, I was  just laughing at Shaun for not realizing that our teenagers  are nearly grown and that they could possibly be counted as latch key kids!

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9 Responses to Reality Check

  1. Cazzie says:

    Your dilemma really does hit home with me. At the moment I am trying to decide if it is apt to have another live in nanny. We had one last year and she only stayed a few months as she had to go back to Germany. Mixed feelings encompased me. I was so happy t be working more, but at the same time, like you, I wanted it to be family not an oustider who was there for the kids. Well, family cannot be relied on here for it has to be an outsider. It was so time consuming and difficult to find the “right” person. It is like, really scary for me to think of doing it again. But, I know, if we want to get independant financially (as I earn alot of money now), and within 2 years..then that is the way to go. 🙁

  2. Kathy Ariano says:

    Always the black cloud hanging over the mom, particularly. I remember it well. Your husband’s reaction is interesting, too. Think about it; sleep on it. Let us all know what you decide.

  3. amanda d says:

    SO what did you decide? It’s a tough choice. Good luck! And, I agree, it’s important to be home when the kids get home from school. Although when I was a teen I remember wishing that my mom wouldn’t be home when I got there. All I really wanted was an hour in the house alone. 🙂

  4. Pamela says:

    I’d say do the job… You’ve done a great job with the girls. Give them an opportunity to show themselves capable of being responsibile.

  5. tommie says:

    What a hard choice? I always wonder if I will go back to teaching once the kids are in school full time. I have a few more years to decide…thank goodness!

  6. I don’t think you’d be wrong to do it, but you are right that the opportunity will probably present itself again.

  7. Nora says:

    They will always be our babies, no? 🙂

  8. coffespaz says:

    I got the point, and I think its funny too! First, I think its commendable that you and Shaun didn’t want someone else raising your kids. It important to me, too, and we both agreed that if we have kids, someone would be staying home with them. Second, I think its amusing that parents sometimes don’t see their kids as old as they are. Shoot, we don’t see ourselves as old as we are so why would it be different looking at the cherubs we raise! 🙂 It does sound like a great opportunity for you, and I hope your boss is willing to wait until you are ready to dive into that new adventure!

  9. photowannabe says:

    What a nice delema to have…a job I mean. So many are without them now. Enjoy your kids. No matter how old they are they are still your kids and if you can be there for them….go for it.